Emotional Transformation
Breaking Point
A breaking point is the moment where you give in to the notion that losing is failure, and that failure is unacceptable.
The Secret to Success
Most people have heard the phrase; “failure is not an option.” That's the biggest myth, lie, and single most detrimental mindset to growth and the enjoyment of unveiling your potential. Mistakes, miscalculations, and poor choices are all necessary to achieve greatness.
You must understand and accept that failure is a tutor, teacher, sensei, guide, and leader. It is the only thing that makes victory sweeter, fuller, louder, greater, more satisfying, more gratifying, more addicting, and one of the most rewarding feelings of chasing a goal.
Emotional Range
Experimentation
Laughter
Work ethic
Frustration
The open mindedness to learn from others around you
Recharged perseverance
Intellectual stimulation
Adrenaline
Creativity
Excitement
Refreshed focus
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The peace to accept you can't control everything
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The wisdom of knowing when to take a break
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The ability to see failure as a game to keep playing instead of a enemy you have to beat
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Most of all it will inspire to keep learning and to always seek new challenges
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*Failure SHOULDN’T cause you to have:
uncontrollable anger, depression, anxiety, lack of interest, sense of entitlement, excuses, close mindedness, boredom, apathy, the need to control others and environments, refuse help, the tendency to cheat, lie, and manipulate or blame others.
“Your breaking point is when you believe you've failed at everything because you've failed at one thing, and it is in this moment you temporarily forget everything you have succeeded at in order to get you where you are. In the heat, or the sorrow, of this sensitive second of time, you ignore the reality that it is only a moment of learning, not a lifetime of defeat.” Laugh it off. It's just a game.
— Coach Nathan
Identity Check
The last part of rediscovering the joy of sport in tennis is to remember that your identity is not attached to your performance. And really it shouldn't be a performance you are putting on, but an experience you are enjoying and learning from.
Matches and point play and just progress reports on how you are doing with what you are training. Keeping score are the only way matches can end. They are a means to an end, not a reflection on who you are or how you play. Always remind yourself of this important truth: